Since I've crossed the bridge of cold-hard-facts to the world of what cannot be seen or touched, the feelings begin to sense the other mysteries at work in our lives. This, in part, is an aspect of spirituality I suppose and what intrigues my mind around what we believe that ends up defining and confining us as human-beings in society and in our individual expression. And then, why do some people have that more holistic aspect than others? What differences in their birth, their makeup genetically, etc... so many wonderful mysteries to explore.
I have a young nephew, who like me, experiences the social world very differently from those around him. He's at odds with himself and what and why everyone else is different. Naturally, him being in the minority sets him up to be the oddball and to wrestle with being who he really is. That has been part of my story too and it's not whether what I had lived was authentic, it was that somewhere along the way the natural development or evolution and expression for who I really was wasn't allowed to surface. Fitting-in requires a lot of learning and conditioning and to unlearn and uncondition oneself is often even harder; particularly when we see the imperative to compress the learning time-line.
So here is the latest link for another gender assessment tool - if you will - the guessing machine and algorithm - which I think is pretty damn good in its performance. I fed quite a bit of my writing into it - more than listed below - especially as I became more curious about the gender and the influencing factors upon the physical form.
http://www.bookblog.net/gender/genie.html
What I found interesting is the fact that there are differences. While it did tend towards consistently guessing my gender correctly - I did more than is listed above - I began to become curious about why the differences showed up. Doing more of my articles and blog-entries, including some fiction I had written a while back, I noticed that subject-matter played a part. That was my initial gut-reaction as I observed what was happening.Article 1
1115 Word Article, the genie determined my gender
correctly. I scored 60% higher male influenced words versus female influenced
words.Article 2
374 Word Article, the genie
determined my gender incorrectly. I scored 31% higher female influenced words
versus male influenced words.Article 3
826 Word
Bog-Entry, the genie determiend my gender correctly. This margin was only by a
6% difference.Article 4
652 Word Article, the
genie determined my gender incorrectly. This margine was by 18%.Article 5 & 6 - correctly measured male by minimal and extreme
differences.Article 7 - balanced scoring between both the male
and female - no guess made.Article 8 - again, balanced score,
although female edged male by a dozen or more words.
Even so, there still appeared to be some kind of inconsistency not quite evident to me. Then I wondered about my state-of-being and the energy that went into the pieces. As I looked at the trend of articles written over a two-year period - a sampling, not all of them - I noted that the difference, while often subject-matter related, was also directly influenced by the source of power for the article. What does that mean?
As these measures of the masculine and feminne, male and female, the dark and the light, etc., all arise, the recognition that opposites are what makes up all that exists. Energy is what exists and creates the physical form - and yes, that energy is God or the force of God. As everyone knows from their school-days, and if not, by the necessity of putting a battery in a device correctly, there are opposite poles that make things go.
As I've said in an earlier discussion, we are the yin and yang, the dark and light, and the masculine and feminine. This is not about the physical, it is about the energy and spirit of what exists within the physical form and will return to energy/spirit upon death. That spirit and essence of who we are has the properties of the opposites while largely embodying the dominant trait assigned to the physical form. Now this is where it gets interesting and what, in part, leads me to support this idea.
Looking at the subject-matter and the state-of-being that inspired these pieces, I quickly recognized what part of me fueled the thoughts that became the words. The mind, recognized as a masculine feature and energy within the human body was the dominant force behind the words for those articles that the genie guessed my gender correctly - as male. The articles that it guessed me as female, were articles that were more emotionally and heart-centred in their inspiration. This is recognized as a more feminine feature and energy within the human body. And this, the whole, is what we're each here to develop.
For women, already in the female form and experiencing the dominant expression of the feminine in their state-of-being, have the exquistie opportunity to also explore, discover, and develop their own masculine force of energy in the physical expression. I believe this is where I have witnessed many mid-late-twenties to early-thirties women that are struggling with how to be more assertive. A part of our natural evolution that we've been unaware of possibly?
Now I've got to tell you, the brain quiz suggested a more feminine leaning brain in its thinking and being when I viewed my results. That quiz too, I wonder now, in the same way - in reference to the spiritual forces (energy) at work that make up the physical form - if my yin-yang balanced evenly as a newborn, and even as a child who was more of a loner, and developed more into the masculine over time into puberty as part of the physical forces were at play, in addition to the social forces of society (a mass of influencing energy) forcing the masculine dominance dictated by social-norms and social-agreements? So why even wonder and ask this?
I am emotional, empathic, intuitive, and do have an ability to read people that scares both myself and them, thus finding myself alienated socially at times. There are some skills I still need to master with respect to managing both energies at work within me, as do we all. Now that I have come to discover more about the masculine and feminine energies at work - getting over my own reluctance of disturbing the social norms - I could embrace the fact that to be a human-being is to develop, experience, and live both expressions of the masculine and feminine energies in life. Part of this also entailed me having to stop fighting spirituality, god, and all that jazz. Too often I've resisted wanting only to be another goldfish in the fish bowl. Don't ask why, you probably already have experienced something similar yourself.
So there's the idea, and recently I've seen other material that didn't quite make sense of all this, even though it was saying the same thing. Now I can see its' evidence in my own expression of life. I believe that society will improve greatly as we begin to embrace and learn to develop both energies in our expressions of thought and life. As we all deepen this understanding we will evolve in our social development and how we raise future generations as well. Seeing the results of this, I'm sure the world will find itself experiencing far more balanced results in life, relationships, business, government, and the cause-effect chain that leads to most man-made tragedies would lesson dramatically.
PS - the paragraphs of this blog-entry were dominantly male expressions. And I noticed it all came from my analytical thought processes as I explored my curiosity and findings.
This particle blog entry was originally part of an online discussion on a personal blog-site with another friend half-a-world away. Since it originated from a conversational perspective, I only altered the first introductory paragraph in order to assist you, a newcomer to the conversation. If continuity seems rocky, it is due to not wanting to change the conversational flow that took place as it was written.
As a professional coach, this article speaks strongly to an aspect of the coaching that I do. I have coached late-teen, early-adult males around what it means to be a man. This includes topics of spiritual development, emotional development, and the courage these journeys require. Additionally, it is natural that these conversations lead the young man to embark upon his own life of adventure that is to discover himself, his passions and interests, his likes and dislikes, and learn how powerful he is simply through the act of choice - not one of dominant and competitive power.
In addition to the young men, I more often find myself coaching both men and women around similar issues where social conditioning has had an overwhelming effect upon their emotional well-being which affects their happiness in many areas of life. These people are often at risk of finding themselves displaced and apparently, according to recent research, men are more likely, and statistically are, experiencing higher rates of suicide. As a recent male client shared with me:
Lee is a rare individual who really wants to help people reach their fullest
potential.Sometimes we get so tied to the past that we have a hard time seeing the
possibilities. Lee patiently challenged my traditional lines of thinking and
helped me learn to listen and (importantly) act on my inner feelings,
becoming more authentic in the process. It's still hard not letting my ego and
thoughts get in the way, but having Lee as my coach will ensure I stay on the
right track. All my relationships have been enhanced with Lee's wisdom.I heartily recommend Lee to anyone who may need a coach to guide them to a
more balanced life. Don't be put off by the spiritual aspect; I was hesitant at
first, but have realised it really is possible to listen and act on our feelings
from deep within and to see new possibilities. I appreciate Lee's patience,
style and presence whenever I've needed to talk to him, whatever the subject,
he's been there for me. And for encouraging me to pursue my dreams.
Subsequently, I would like to thank him and others for affirming this gift that I'm able to share with them.
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