Gender Sense

As this gender role confusion is a natural part of the conversation, and we all deal wtih some form of internal question around how we should be, the comment arose as that there are few Real Men left in this world. This naturally leads tot he question of what are those qualities and she was generous to share an off-the-top-of-the-head list.

1. He knows who he is, what he believes, and lives his life with unwavering integrity.
2. He treats people fairly, with dignity and respect.
3. He does not shy away from conflict, but handles it with grace and courage.
4. He is kind, particularly to women, children and animals.
5. He does not seek to control, manipulate or dominate anyone.
6. He is not afraid to love and to be loved, unconditionally, even when he gets hurt.
7. He seeks ways to help others at home, in the workplace, in the community.
8. He listens more than he speaks. When he speaks, his words are full of wisdom.
9. He has a sense of humor, particularly regarding himself.
10. He takes care of himself physically.
11. He makes the world a better place.

This naturally lead me to ask about the women's list and the simple statement came back to replace He with She.

I couldn't agree more and I'm very glad to see these lists for men/women, in combination with the gender articles and the need for development and healing with our society's role expectations. Too often we see the power-struggle between men and women and the power struggles we experience in personal relationships and around the world between countries have never amounted to anything more than adding more fuel to the fire. Fortunately, as we communicate, investigate within, and open ourselves vulnerably to share the truth, we begin to reach the root, build solid foundations, reach understandings, and find solutions.

PS - this was an off-the-top-of-the-head list meaning that more can be added. When it is an item about owning your personal power in a positive, non-manipulative, way that adds to the enjoyment and fulfillment of your life without affecting others lives in a way that robs them of their own personal power, then I would tend towards support. Where we often become confused though, is around how to get what we want from life and people without manipulating. Often times we aren't even aware we are manipulating, given the many years of observing and accepting behaviors throughout societies examples in life and entertainment.